Monday, January 10, 2011

How do you know?

When we started trying for a family we just assumed it would happen. We had been responsible, waited until I was done with school, good jobs, nice home, all those things that make you think you're ready. Then it took longer than we thought. Way longer. Then we were ready for #2. And it took longer than we thought. Way longer. Now we have two frozen and I really have no idea when to use them. Even though we didn't plan it this way, the age difference between Chase and Emery is awesome (4 1/2 years). We have never dealt with any jealous issues and they get along great. I don't know if we got lucky, or if he truly understood what was going on when Emery came along. However, we're also older than we ever thought we'd be at this point in our lives. Let's just say both of us are getting a lot closer to 40 than 30 (Jeff being even closer than I am of course)! ;o) So waiting another three years just isn't really something we want to do. However, when I held our cousin's little boy at Christmas, Emery went crazy. Like trying to hit him crazy. So it makes me think that anytime soon is too soon. Ugh. How do you know? Then I tell myself these may not even make it through the thaw and if they do, they may not take. So many variables, it's just too much. We won't even go into the finances department because everyone knows the economy sucks so that's not saying anything new. Sometimes being a grown up and having to make decisions is just so darn tough!

****I am grateful for
1) being free to make decisions
2) our totsicles
3) the winter storm, love the cold weather (just not the wet/cold weather)
4) the age of technology
5) video monitors


Amber said...

I think you've been reading my mind! I've been struggling with this, too. It took us 5 years to get pregnant with Drake. I really hope it doesn't take that long for #2, but you never know. I always thought I wanted my kids 3 years apart, but then when do you start trying again? And, like you, Jason is closer to 40 than 30. :-) I'm not quite there yet, but I always wanted 3 kids, too...

Good luck!

Josie said...

Just remember, you asked!!!

MHO! If you are going to do the transfer, do it now.
1. If the tots survive the thaw, and if they take, Avery will be 2 when you deliver. At that age, she will be a lot more independant and will want to be held a lot less than she does now.
2. You will have the opportunity to ease her into another baby being in "her space" while talking to her about her sibling like you did with Chase. The cousin incident was an ambush to her.
3. You don't have sibling rivalry now, and it may be because of the age difference, BUT... Madd and Macy are 6+ years apart and Maddie says Macy gets away with everything. Kay and Macy are 5 years apart and Kay says Macy gets everything. Maddie and Kay are 15 months apart, and they both say the other gets everything. Your situation may be that they are different genders, and adding another will double up on one gender. And think, if you had twins, you might end up with 2 of each gender!! ;-)
4. Economy If you wait too much longer, you will be wanting to retire but still have a child in college. I don't know that you are ever in a finacial situation that you are "ready" for a child. Just bite that bullet and do it if that is what you want.